Death is just the beginning

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The way I remember it, the shining sun was beating down on the bleached sidewalk just outside the hospital, and the sun-rays were reflected back up from this glistening surface in such a way that the pinpoint rays caused sharp jabbing pains in my eyes. Sure it was a hot and beautiful day which imbued a sense of inspiration despite the extreme sadness I felt as I walked hand-in-hand with my sisters to the car. We would escape the sadness of reality by driving to the beach for a long and pensive stroll.

It is hard to believe that my father died two years ago. I think that by now I have "almost" recovered. I do not think that any son fully recovers one hundred percent from the death of his father, but that is part of the ways of nature. Carry on the torch so to say. In tribute, I include the following quotation which I think my father also liked.

"To die is to have a mind that is completely empty of itself, empty of its daily longings, pleasures and agonies. Death is renewal, a mutation, in which thought does not function at all because thought is old. When there is death there is something totally new. Freedom from the known is death, and then you are living."
- Krishnamurti, Freedom From the Known (Chapter IX: Time-Sorrow-Death).
My father was also at one time or other interested in this kind of stuff, because he had a modest collection of books by this fine philosopher of life. Whether or not he really read the collection seriously or really believed in it I am not sure, but still I find this quote more than appropriate to the situation and the way I feel about it.

If you are interested in reading the complete chapter and learn more about this stuff, then I invite you to visit my Krishnamurti page.


I don't think we ever get "over" the loss of a parent. I still miss my mother terribly. I love the quote, btw, very touching. Anyway, I hope you've found some happiness in remembering your father.

There is always happiness in remembering a lost one, though by nature the human mind has the tendency to remember only the more positive things and perhaps feel overly sentimental about the whole thing.

Tonight while putting my two young girls to bed the older one got upset at the thought of me dying some day and asked me what happens when people die. In my own, less articulate way, I tried to make much the same point as Krishnamurti.

I bet that just explaining this as an open and honest father who loves his daughters as much as I that you are just as if not "more" articulate than the master himself.

"Death is the gateway to heaven" It is helpful to have some form of beliefs. Otherwise, it is up to you to make up what you think might happen afterwords. But if you think you know, it makes death more meaningful. It isn't as much of a curse, it is more of a form of "going home". Earth is a home away from home, and if we live life well, we may go "home" with a clear conscience and not be afraid. Death is always difficult. Like my "good friend" Adam De LeBur said, (paraphrase) "Dead people are gone, it is the people they left behind you have to worry about".

Well, I am not so sure if I believe that heaven (or whatever it is) should be seen as the "final" destination. To go home is not meant to mean traveling to some other destination over there. I have faith that our ultimate goal is to rediscover our home which is deep inside of us.

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